Choosing the Life You Want
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- My mistake was that I thought change was determined by effort. If only I had more willpower, I thought, I could muscle my way into being the person I wanted to become.
What I know now is that yes, effort is important. But environment is more so (View Highlight)
- Three years ago I looked at my life and asked: Am I moving towards the life I want?
The answer was no.
Slowly, I started to change my environment. I left a job that was focused on achievement and a city obsessed with accomplishment. I spent much more time alone.
Naturally, my relationships started to change. I got closer to people who lived the way I wanted to live (peacefully, calmly, creatively) and drifted away from others. Friendships evolved. Some ended.
These conversations were not fun. I cried a lot. I felt like I was losing myself. Was I a bad person? Was I selfish? (View Highlight)
- Moving towards the life we want requires changing the life we have. What this means is that the way we show up won’t stay the same. Relationships transforming is a natural part of living.
I can forgive myself for falling out of touch and empathize with people who drifted away. We were just in different seasons. (View Highlight)
Choosing the Life You Want
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Highlights
- My mistake was that I thought change was determined by effort. If only I had more willpower, I thought, I could muscle my way into being the person I wanted to become.
What I know now is that yes, effort is important. But environment is more so (View Highlight)
- Three years ago I looked at my life and asked: Am I moving towards the life I want?
The answer was no.
Slowly, I started to change my environment. I left a job that was focused on achievement and a city obsessed with accomplishment. I spent much more time alone.
Naturally, my relationships started to change. I got closer to people who lived the way I wanted to live (peacefully, calmly, creatively) and drifted away from others. Friendships evolved. Some ended.
These conversations were not fun. I cried a lot. I felt like I was losing myself. Was I a bad person? Was I selfish? (View Highlight)
- Moving towards the life we want requires changing the life we have. What this means is that the way we show up won’t stay the same. Relationships transforming is a natural part of living.
I can forgive myself for falling out of touch and empathize with people who drifted away. We were just in different seasons. (View Highlight)
Choosing the Life You Want
![rw-book-cover](https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/w_1200,h_600,c_limit,f_jpg,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fbucketeer-e05bbc84-baa3-437e-9518-adb32be77984.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F48f31aff-ffd5-4d04-a126-aa2a69ca5256_2673x2138.jpeg)
Metadata
Highlights
- My mistake was that I thought change was determined by effort. If only I had more willpower, I thought, I could muscle my way into being the person I wanted to become.
What I know now is that yes, effort is important. But environment is more so (View Highlight)
- Three years ago I looked at my life and asked: Am I moving towards the life I want?
The answer was no.
Slowly, I started to change my environment. I left a job that was focused on achievement and a city obsessed with accomplishment. I spent much more time alone.
Naturally, my relationships started to change. I got closer to people who lived the way I wanted to live (peacefully, calmly, creatively) and drifted away from others. Friendships evolved. Some ended.
These conversations were not fun. I cried a lot. I felt like I was losing myself. Was I a bad person? Was I selfish? (View Highlight)
- Moving towards the life we want requires changing the life we have. What this means is that the way we show up won’t stay the same. Relationships transforming is a natural part of living.
I can forgive myself for falling out of touch and empathize with people who drifted away. We were just in different seasons. (View Highlight)